Relationship

Why Being Happy with Yourself is Key to a Happy Relationship

When it comes to relationships, the age-old question often arises: Can you be truly happy in a relationship if you are not happy with yourself?

Hari Nambiar
3 min readJan 14, 2023
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The short answer is no.

Before delving into the intricacies of this topic, it’s essential to understand that a relationship is not a substitute for self-love and self-acceptance. A relationship can bring joy and happiness. But it cannot fill the void of self-doubt and unhappiness within yourself.

Before entering a relationship, it’s essential to work on yourself and address any issues or problems that may be causing unhappiness within yourself. This includes things like self-doubt, insecurity, and lack of self-worth. Those negative feelings can manifest in your relationship when you are unhappy with yourself. You may constantly seek validation and reassurance from your partner or feel unworthy of their love. When you are unhappy with yourself, you may struggle with setting healthy boundaries and communicating effectively with your partner. This can lead to conflicts and misunderstandings within the relationship.

Being in a relationship with someone unhappy with themselves can also be draining and challenging for the other person. They may feel like they are constantly walking on eggshells or responsible for the other person’s happiness. It’s important to remember that a relationship is not a substitute for self-love and self-acceptance. A relationship can bring joy and happiness but cannot fill the void of self-doubt and unhappiness within yourself.

It can be challenging to take a step back and focus on yourself, especially in a relationship. But it’s important to remember that you are improving yourself and the relationship by working on yourself. When you are happy with yourself and have a healthy relationship, you can bring more positivity and stability to the relationship. You can communicate effectively, set healthy boundaries, and feel secure in yourself and the relationship.
It’s also important to remember that a relationship is a partnership, not a saviour. Both people should work on themselves and support each other in their personal growth instead of relying on the connection to fix individual problems. Being happy with yourself is not a one-time thing; it’s an ongoing process. Working on yourself takes time and effort, but the benefits for yourself and your relationship are worth it.

In conclusion, you cannot be truly happy in a relationship if you are unhappy with yourself. It’s essential to focus on yourself and address any personal issues or problems before entering or while in a relationship. A healthy relationship is built on mutual self-growth and support. It’s essential to take time for self-reflection and self-improvement to cultivate a healthy relationship with yourself and others. It’s not always easy, but it’s worth it in the end. Remember, a little self-love and self-care go a long way in fostering a happy and fulfilling relationship.

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Hari Nambiar
Hari Nambiar

Written by Hari Nambiar

Writer. Content Creator. I write about life, happiness and philosophy! Freelance Writer Open to Gigs Email: hnambiar200@gmail.com

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